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Home > Patient & Family Resources > Health Library > Cancer Support: Dealing With Emotions and Fears
"When you hear the word 'cancer,' the worry begins. Am I going to survive this? How is it going to affect my family? I couldn't seem to focus on anything except cancer, and I felt like I'd lost control of my own thoughts. A friend suggested starting a journal, and I found that writing out my thoughts allowed me to let go of them a little. Putting them on paper somehow gave them less power over me."—Evelyn, 61
"My first reaction was why did this happen to me? I felt like I didn't deserve a cancer diagnosis, and I was really angry about it. I mentioned to my doctor that I felt angry all the time, and she referred me to a counselor. I was reluctant to try counseling at first, but talking to someone really helped me work through what I was feeling. It was a big relief."—Riley, 48
The time after a cancer diagnosis can be very difficult. You and your loved ones may be feeling all kinds of emotions. The path ahead may seem confusing and scary. You probably have anxious thoughts swirling around in your head at all hours of the day and night.
Do any of these sound familiar?
It's common to have many emotions, or none. Everyone reacts differently. And your feelings may change often, without warning.
Now is the time to focus on your resilience. Resilience is an "inner strength" that helps you bounce back after stressful situations. When you are resilient, you may recover more quickly from setbacks or difficult changes, including illness.
Part of resilience is how you think. Your mind can have a positive or negative effect on your body. Negative emotions, such as worry and stress, can cause tense muscles and pain, headaches, and stomach problems. But having a positive outlook on life might help you better handle pain or stress than someone who is less hopeful.
Here are some tips for building resilience:
Worry and distress may feel like they're taking over your life. But there are many things you can do to lower your anxiety and feel better. Pick one or two to try today.
It's great to try to find things you can do on your own to feel better. And if you have family and friends who are good listeners, it can help a lot to talk to them about how you're feeling.
But not everyone has someone to talk to. And sometimes it's easier to talk to someone who isn't directly affected by your cancer. A counselor or therapist can help you work through the emotions of cancer. He or she can simply listen to your worries and anything else you feel like talking about.
Different types of counseling include family therapy, couples therapy, group counseling, and individual counseling. Be sure you choose the right counselor or therapist for your needs. Finding a good fit with a counselor is important.
Consider joining a cancer support group. It helps to connect with people who are going through the same things you are. Your doctor can help you find a group in your area.
The following booklets from the National Cancer Institute's website may be helpful:
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Current as ofDecember 19, 2018
Author: Healthwise StaffMedical Review: E. Gregory Thompson MD - Internal MedicineKathleen Romito MD - Family MedicineElizabeth T. Russo MD - Internal Medicine
Current as of:
December 19, 2018
Medical Review:E. Gregory Thompson MD - Internal Medicine & Kathleen Romito MD - Family Medicine & Elizabeth T. Russo MD - Internal Medicine
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